Coaching is a term being used a lot these days, in a variety of capacities. However, I think coaching can be whittled down to just one word — “motivating.” When I think of the various coaches I’ve had throughout my life I can easily list a few of their similarities even though their areas were completely different:
- They saw my potential.
- They taught me new skills.
- They helped me establish goals and then pushed me to reach them.
- They held me accountable.
- They had specialized skills in their areas of expertise.
Coaching is different from counseling in that the focus is more on the present and future as opposed to the past and the present. An apt comparison could be that counseling is like physical therapy — it’s healing, repairs damage, allows the individual to find new strengths and/or helps the individual accept a new normal. Coaching would then be like taking that healed or restored body and then learning a new skill like dancing or skiing — taking the new knowledge and learning to apply it.
As a Sex and Intimacy Coach my primary concern is to provide skills and education to couples and/or individuals, help establish attainable goals and provide accountability to help achieve the set goals.
Coaching can be for anyone, at any stage of life. Just as we seek out personal trainers, financial advisers, and teachers, a relationship coach is just another way of shoring up an area of your life that may need a little tweaking. As human beings we like to stick to the “status quo” and find change daunting without a little help — and don’t we all sometimes need a little help with our relationships?
Alisha is a sex and intimacy coach at The Healing Group and she is Co-Author of newly released book, Real Intimacy: A Couple’s Guide to Genuine, Healthy Sexuality. She appears regularly on X-96 taking live calls on sex and intimacy and offers relationship tips on KUTV 2 morning news.